This weekend I met an individual who made me stop and consider just how fragile we all are and how much we all long for the same thing – connection.
My husband and I are in the market for a new home. We’ve been casually going from open house to open house weighing each home’s pros and cons. This project can be (it certainly is for me) exhausting. Walking into an open house leaves you, the potential buyer, open to a deluge of questions from the realtor. “What’s your name?” “Are you familiar with the area?” “What exactly are you looking for?” “Is there anything I can show you outside of this house?” and on and on and on. What they’re doing, by the way, is their job. What they’re doing to me…is stress me out! I actually get myself all worked up before even walking in the door, wondering what questions they’re going to fire at me. But during this stressful time of trying to find the perfect place to live, I get edgy – REALLY EDGY! Like a ‘crazy redhead who’s lost her ever-loving mind’ kind of edgy. I just want to walk through the home, see it through my eyes only, and sometimes, not talk to a soul. The fact is, I know they’ve spent a lot of time and effort to be at this open house on a gorgeous, sunny Sunday afternoon. I know they’ve probably left their friends and/or family to be where they are today. I know they make their living selling homes, not showing homes but selling them. I know that the questions they’re asking are a way of getting me, the potential buyer, to open up and be open to conversation.
Yesterday, while walking into one home, the realtor was at the dining room table doing what looked to be work. He immediately looked up, acknowledged us and said, “How can I make your day brighter?” My husband and I both laughed but then stopped – this guy was genuinely serious! He noticed the surprised looks on our faces and said he wouldn’t bother us. He welcomed us to walk through the home and if we had any questions, to come find him and he’d do his very best to answer our questions. I immediately felt at ease, like my grandfather or best friend was the realtor. We started a conversation and the more we talked, the more we got to know this lovely gentleman. He has been in the industry for over 25 years; the first chapter of his career was spent as an engineer. He has two boys who have graduated college; one with an engineering degree, the other a math degree. He loves being a realtor and he’s also a life coach. He was a joy to talk with. No pressure, just easy conversation. When we were finished walking through the house and asking a few questions I asked if he would repeat his original question to us and he said, “Oh, you mean, how can I make your day brighter?” I said I had never thought of greeting people in that manner and he told me one of the main reasons he does what he does in this second chapter of his career is to connect with people. He loves getting to know people, getting to know how they live, what makes them tick, etc. He told us that while he loved being an engineer, his entire existence was his job. He worked far too many hours and lost track of what is truly important – connection to people. I immediately fell in love with this man! He pours his heart and soul into what he does, not specifically for financial gain but for connection to people.
Soon, I’m going to be a certified, practicing Health & Wellness Coach and I’m very excited and honored to be able to help clients on their health and wellness journey. I’ve realized that my passion is and always has been to serve others. And I will never forget the lesson I learned on that sunny, summer, stressful Sunday afternoon. People are people are people. We’re all the same, no matter our background, our education, our financial status or the color of our skin – we all long to connect. We get so caught up in our own lives, our feelings, our jobs, our little bubbles that we forget that we’re all in this together. We need to take a step back, out of our own little worlds and remember that we’re not alone on this planet. And that’s a lesson I don’t ever want to forget. Thanks for the life lesson Bart.
Think of a way that you can slow down today, take a step back, maybe even take a deep breath (when someone really pisses you off) and find a way to reach out and genuinely connect with them. If this blog touches and/or inspires you, share it with your friends. Let’s create a community of honoring and respecting that we each have different ways of living, different beliefs, preferences, values and needs but we all long to connect.